: Susan Parker’s Story.
When Susan joined Mercy Ships, she was 25 years old. She only planned to stay five months.
“That was in 1987,” she remembered. “Five years later when I married Gary, I never imagined that I was signing up to spend most of my adult life on a Mercy Ship.”
Dr Gary Parker is an oral and maxillofacial surgeon — the only one who lived full-time on the original flagship, the Anastasis. Susan first worked as Mercy Ships Founder Don Stephens’ assistant. It was Susan’s time with Don & Deyon that prepared her to later serve as director of the ship’s Discipleship Training School (DTS) for young volunteers.
“From 1987 to 1994 both Gary and I were working in jobs that we loved and that made us feel alive,” Susan said. “We had to dig deep and lean into the Lord as we were stretched beyond what we thought we could do — but those were exciting and fulfilling times.”
Susan thinks of her five years leading the DTS students as one of the most challenging and rewarding seasons of her life.
“We were a team of 12 friends leading four schools per year and bearing witness to the radical transformation of countless young lives,” she said. “That just never gets old. I expected that my work on the ship would always be like this.”
But if there’s one thing Susan has learned in her many years at sea, it’s that God rarely works in exactly the way she expects.
Parenting on Board
In 1994, Gary and Susan had their first child, Carys. “Of course, we were delighted,” Susan said.
But with no childcare available for first-year parents on board the ship, Susan was no longer able to work in the way she was used to. Overnight, she went from DTS director to full-time primary caregiver.
“I knew with my head that I was still a valuable part of this community with something to contribute, but to be honest, some days it was a bit of a mental balancing act not to feel side-lined,” she said.
Despite wrestling with the change, Susan enjoyed her first years of parenting.
In October of 1998, Gary was made CEO of the Anastasis. He and Susan had a second child at that point, 10-month-old Wesley. Because Gary was also the Chief Medical Officer and working full time as a surgeon, Susan took on many of the duties of the CEO office. Six months later, she was also asked to take on the responsibility of training director.
For several years, Susan and Gary both continued working at what felt to Susan like 150% capacity.
During this time the ministry of Mercy Ships was growing, as the Anastasis sailed from Benin to Guinea to The Gambia to Sierra Leone, providing free surgeries, dental care, and medical training. At every port, Susan and Gary were at the forefront of the work.
In 2007 the family moved to a newly outfitted, bigger, and more modern ship, the Africa Mercy®. The crew grew, and the capacity for surgeries increased. But for Susan, another turning point had arrived.
“As we were transitioning from the Anastasis to the Africa Mercy, physically, I hit a wall,” she said. “That’s when it became apparent to me that something had to give. I could no longer give 150% to my job, if Gary was going to continue to do that, too.”
“One of us had to be more intentionally present and not continually distracted by the press of people and work and tempted to put our young children in front of yet one more video,” Susan recalled.
Susan knew that at this juncture, there was no one who could replace Gary’s surgical skillset or consistency of care on a full-time basis.
“I knew it had to be me,” she said. So Susan made a choice — one she knows many of her fellow Mercy Ships parents have faced. She turned her focus to a different kind of leadership role.
“I think what I did, in fact, was to take everything I had learned from Don and Deyon, and from leading the discipleship training school, and then later from being a part of the primary ship’s leadership team,” she said. “I took all of those lessons and turned my focus to the discipleship of our children in really intentional ways.”
She knew she was also ensuring that her family could remain on board, allowing Gary to continue to offer surgeries to the countless patients who needed them.
Stepping back from the positions she loved was not an easy decision, Susan acknowledged, and it took longer to let go than she thought it would. Some days, her life didn’t look the way she’d imagined. But she could see without question how her choice was having a powerful impact on her children.
“It was right for me because it was right for them,” she said.
Today, Carys is 27. She’s a hospital chaplain and she’s graduating with a master’s of divinity. Wesley is 24, and working toward a master’s in nutrition and exercise physiology. Susan has witnessed how a childhood spent volunteering in Africa changed them.
“They both have a worldview that bends toward the oppressed and the marginalized,” she said. “I see them always looking out for the person that is on the fringe.”
Susan didn’t give up on her desire to learn and grow during those years. In 2010, she received her master’s degree in global leadership from Fuller Seminary.
Now, with her children grown up and living in the U.S., Susan accepted the call to serve as the Africa Mercy Hospital Chaplaincy Program Manager on an interim basis. To her surprise, it has proved to be one of the most meaningful positions she’s ever served in.